i am done translating silence into interest. done confusing distance with depth. done romanticizing people who show up halfway and call it mystery. nonchalance is not emotional maturity. it is emotional avoidance dressed well.
boyhood interrupted is realizing how many of us learned to shrink our wants to keep other people comfortable. to accept crumbs because asking for more felt like too much. but 2026 is not about proving you are low maintenance. it is about choosing people who meet you where you are, not where they are convenient.
if someone cannot name what they feel, cannot follow through, cannot show curiosity or care, that is not cool. that is unavailable. and i am no longer auditioning for attention or decoding mixed signals like it is a personality trait.
going into 2026, i want relationships that feel warm. responsive. intentional. people who do not make you guess. people who do not disappear and reappear like nothing happened. people who understand that effort is not desperation. it is respect.
so yes, cutting off nonchalant people is the goal.
not out of bitterness, but out of self preservation.
because softness deserves softness back.
and i am choosing to be where i am met.
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